Month: April 2016
of the opportunity is my motto rather than complaining!
Yuvan and me had to wait for his vaccination turn with his doc and our tummy’s grumbled as well.. We took this opportunity to get away to a nearby food court for a relaxed breakfast – just me and him! Bonding can happen anywhere anytime and the opportunity is always there.. This applies to everybody I guess:-) Instead of complaining about the pitfalls of others (which everyone will have) take the opportunity and celebrate thier goodness!
buy a facewash for me!’, announced my 10 yr old right after walking into the door yesterday from school! I was rolling my eyes and with a smile, asked, ‘Why? Whats up?’
Yuvan goes, ‘Mr X (his floorball coach) said its time we boys start using face wash regularly as we will now start getting pimples etc as we will be reaching puberty soon..’ (Me:- A shocked but very surprising rolled eyes..)
I said, ‘Ok Yuvan, makes sense.. let’s look for a kid-friendly one later!’ Yuvan continued, ‘Oh Mr X has suggested some brands too..’ Oh my Gosh! I am in for a roll leading up to pre-teen years I guess…
And we did buy one for him; The mummy in mr rejoiced ‘Atleast he would start washing his face well enough from now on…’
MY little boy is growing upppp!!! And when I was all thinking about this growing up, his P3 teacher sends me this pic and says ‘Yuvan got randomly picked to perform on stage for International Friendship day and he is:-)’
He never stops to amaze me…:-)
decision making acknowledged by the parents may be something every child wants probably.. Frankly, I never had that kind of a childhood. As parents, we are trying our very best to give that to Yuvan, but we also have to accept it drives us crazy at times!!
Its was quite a day with me feeling not so great the whole day and Yuvan came home with lots of school work to finish! It turned out to be a day where we just had to listen to his feelings and rationale! He told me today, ‘Yes I have the ability but I have no interest in carnatic vocal!, so interest should be first then ability!’ Bow! Bow!
So at the end of today, we finally listened to him and his thoughts and let him quit his vocal music lessons so he could pursue only what he is passionate about (outside academics) i.e floorball and cricket.
The eyeopener was earlier when he went for an audition he did tell the interviewer he hates singing though he was singing throughout the day, because in his mind is etched singing is carnatic music…
Today, after our collective agreement on his vocal music lessobs, he still kept singing lots of songs (‘one day my father told me…’) through the evening, making one thing very clear, ‘he loves singing, he has the potential but he is not made for carnatic music!’, but he still has the love and flair for singing! If we have not agreed for this quit now, may be he would have lost this joy of music in general.. Though my mind still says, ‘Its good to learn an art and music is soo good for the brain..’, I have accepted that we need to let Yuvan follow his heart!
And he was in a good mood, singing as he was doing his homework and I was relieved in a way too (I guess we have done something right)! I can sense he felt liberated!
So we did also somthing impulsive though impulsiveness is not always good but sometimes yes and it brings great happiness to the moment.. We decided to savour our favourite chicken rice and satay at a nearby hawker centre.. Then took a train ride to grab some mcflurry mud pie, on a school night…
I am thankful for today’s blessings! Looking forward to a happy tomorrow!
should be the way to go for me to get back to some real sanity! I have lately discovered (though a friend of mine pointed out long ago) that I am not enjoying the little joys, giving myself a hi-fi when appropriate, cherishing the small quite moments and appreciating the blessings that surrounds me…
It all could be due to my ‘sometimes a bane and sometimes a boon’ characteristic ‘trying and strive to be better than last time’ attitude, which constantly sends my brain and train of thoughts on an extra spin, and as a result I end up not appreciating anything around me nor enjoying or cherishing my blessings.
I decided to change this consciously by making a few adjustments and these few little not so big adjustments to my day(s) has made me defintely feel the difference… Taking bus and MRT more has given myself more time, a sense of self-belonging and a time when I can look around me, people watch and what not, bringing an instant sense of happinnes and smile to my face!
Morning walks whenever possible since this Jan has made me feel good about myself and I have been noticing things around me that I have never noticed in my 10 years of living in SG…. The proof is here (click). Can you imagine, all these pretty things have been around me?
Well, more changes ahead for me to consciously appreciate and I am sure it’s going to make it better for me and offcourse people around me:-) A better calm not so constantly anxious approach to life, may be?