A piece of my mind/soul searching

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I have been so stressed and occupied this few days..precisely last 3 days…coz Yuvan has been so adamant on a few things so unnecessarily n after so much of talking ,i had to give him his “fair bit of share “*wink *.. but then he becomes so understanding  after getting this “fair bit of share “n after being moody for a while (may be thinking ) n comes n says sorry..what he did was wrong..wil not do again… all blah..blah.. m impressed.. but one good thing is he never repeated the same mistake all these three days..but why stress me?????? “but itz part and parcel of growing up !” – says my Brain..But my heart couldn’t take it!

At times I feel so guilty,that after so much of controlling myself of only “talking ” to him(which i Had followed for almost 4 months now) , I had to give his “fair bit of share” these three days.. m so upset..but m stressed also.. too much occupied that Mybody is so tiresome but i couldn’t sleep…

But one thing I could make out was.. may be he wants to get some fresh air out..as it has been raining outside,I haven’t been taking him even for a walk..itz school,nap..activity n play at home… so may he needs that change…cos one of his insistent behaviours on one of the 3 days was to go go out when it was pouring catz n dogs..

so now,I have decided to do stop giving his fair bit as he has been a very understanding kid..but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t do things which needs the fair bit of share.. but m thinking to keep my temper cool n handle him softer.. ‘mummy not gonna talk to u..” kinda stuffs.. 

Today after the morning episode ,I had to take the stand of  “Mummy very angry with u n upset..so m not gonna talk..” he tried to bring me into his conversation throughout the time i brought him to school..impressing me by reading all 2/3 digit bus numbers.. But I was Firm..

When he went to school,his teacher was there to chk on him as usual.. 

herez the conversation..

Yuvan : Ms.Reana.. Mummy is upset with me.. Don wanna talk to me..

Ms.Reana : WHy Yuvan what happenned?

Yuvan: Mummy fight with me..

Ms.Reana: what did u do?u fought with mummy or mummy fought with u?

Yuvan:Ms.Reana.Mummy don wanna talk with me..

mmm..

and today I found out the library has activities for abt 30 -45 mts like art-craft,block printing n so many stuffs involving parent n kids..I saw their calender.. so I have decided to bring Yuvan to few of those.. so he gets a change..enjoys n learns.. most of them are free n requires registration or costs 2 dollars.. I find it meaningful…

So m gonna control myself.. change myself for better… 

And I have decided to take a Yoga course ,which is called inner engineering..which has helped a lot many in stress relief..finding yourself..n more of a peaceful innerbeing..  I have been thinking abt it for a Long time now..but now this time when i go to India will do it…:) sure shot this time..I need it!!!!!!

Thanks for holding on to such a Long post Buddy!

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Here’z an interesting article from Baby Center on indigestion :I believe it will be helpful for many 🙂

How can I help relieve my child’s indigestion or tell if it’s something more serious?

Intestinal gas is a perfectly normal occurrence in children and in adults. (We grown-ups pass, on average, 2 liters of gas a day.) In most cases, it isn’t a cause for concern, unless your child is experiencing more than minor discomfort and complaining a lot. The best thing you can do is to try to eliminate or manage the offending food or habit that’s triggering your child’s gas. When your child does have uncomfortable gas pain, you can give him an ant-acid (such as Mylanta Supreme) as well as an anti-gas agent (such as Mylicon) to reduce upper and lower gastrointestinal discomfort. But if you find yourself treating your child several times a day for more than three consecutive days, or his gas coincides with other symptoms, such as vomiting, diarrhea, or fever, call your doctor. Your child might have a more serious condition such as a food allergy orlactose intolerance.

How can I tell what’s causing my child’s gas?

There could be several factors causing your child to have more gas or indigestion than usual:

Roaming around during meals
Many time-crunched parents today find that we’ll do anything to get our kids to eat right, including letting them meander around house, watch television, or even roughhouse during meals. Not a good idea. “When kids roam and play while they eat, they can get excited and trap air in their intestinal tracts,” says Michael Hart, director of Pediatric Gastroenterology and Nutrition at Carilion Medical Center for Children in Roanoke, Virginia.

Odds are, if your child is a roamer, he eats fast or gulps so his chewing doesn’t impede his playing, which also increases air consumption and isn’t good for digestion. (It can also increase his risk of choking.) And if he has meals while watching television, he might ignore his body’s signals that he’s full and overeat. Encourage your child to sit at the table with you during meals, chew his food well, and take his time when he eats. Reassure him that when he’s done, he can play as long as he wants to.

Eating a lot of high-fiber foods, like cereal, or fatty foods, like French fries
Some children’s guts may be sensitive to fiber or fat. Take note of which types of foods bring on your child’s bouts of gastrointestinal distress and try limiting them. You might also discuss his diet with your pediatrician, who could have other suggestions.

Chewing gum
The artificial sweeteners in sugar-free gum are difficult for some children to digest. They get trapped in the colon and are fermented into intestinal gas. Chewing gum also increases the odds of swallowing excess air. Try your best to limit your child’s gum chewing.

Eating certain vegetables
Like adults, children can experience additional gas when they eat vegetables like beans, broccoli, and cauliflower. If your child eats these healthy foods, that’s a good thing. Just make sure you don’t overload him with too many gas-inducing veggies at consecutive meals.

Drinking a lot of juice
In general, parents misunderstand the benefits of giving kids juice. If your child is drinking more than a glass a day, it might be causing him to have a little extra gas. Some children have a difficult time digesting the fructose and sucrose in juice. As a result, it can bring on gas, even diarrhea, and make a child feel too full come mealtime. Plus, it bathes the teeth in sugar. Ideally, a child over the age of 3 shouldn’t be drinking more than one 6- to 8-oz. glass of juice a day.

Drinking a lot of soda
Carbonated drinks like soda contain phosphoric acid, which can cause excessive gas and indigestion. Soda also tends to make children feel full, so they don’t drink the necessary milk and water they should or get all the nutrients they need throughout the day. Try to discourage your child from drinking soda at all or at least limit it to special occasions or birthday parties.

Not drinking enough water
Drinking water won’t eliminate your child’s gas problem, but it will help improve any constipation or difficulty he might have passing stools (constipation often coincides with gas and abdominal discomfort). Make sure your child has several glasses of water each day in addition to the milk or juice you give him.

Source: Dr. Michael Hart, director of Pediatric Gastroenterology and Nutrition at Carilion medical Center for Children in Roanoke, Virginia

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8 thoughts on “A piece of my mind/soul searching

    Suhanya responded:
    March 8, 2009 at 11:02 AM

    Thanks Jitendra 🙂 will do it 🙂

    Angeline said:
    March 19, 2009 at 1:53 AM

    deep breath girl!!!
    deep breath!!!

    its normal to lose your cool… but its important to explain after the heat is over, no matter how young little Yuvan is… but from what you say, I can tell that he is a very very smart boy, and he loves you, that’s why he said sorry….

    have it occurred to you that he didn’t do it to irritate you?
    have it occurred to you that he couldn’t control himself doing what kids love to do… that is to be able to do anything without the need to think too much?

    I think you know it within you…
    you are ok, you are doing fine…
    don’t be too hard on yourself…

    Suhanya responded:
    March 19, 2009 at 10:23 AM

    Thanks Angel..U r right.. i explain to him… very funny he comes n asks me even when i’m keeping the cool jus after the storm n before the explanation ” amma… tell me why did u beat me. ?” i feel so guilty at those times… BUt he takes in my explanation.

    Thanks a ton 🙂
    Will keep what u sd in my mind 🙂
    Yeah i shd understand..though how very understanding he is he is a kid n shd do things the kiddish way.. u are absolutely rt!!!!!!!

    Noted!

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