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A year where we survived as a mother and son – handling Year 5 (me especially so perplexed after so many colleagues and friends shared what it is to move from grade 4 to grade 5), Yuvan playing two competitive sports – Floorball for his school as a Captain, Cricket for his club and representing both under 11’s and under 13’s (not all matches) and came out well I should say. Yuvan did quite well in academics I should say, at floorball and also was selected as an ‘All Stars Team’ member at the end end of the cricket season, won a man of the match award, ended up being on the winning team for both u-11 and u-13, all of these but not without the lows, which we survived together, introspected and learnt our lessons as we went along…
On top it he explored his skills as an MC at the school hosting, Olympics week, musical performances during recess and his book review ‘A boy who knew everything’ got half of the class interested in reading it. And, I also managed to complete a very intensive work loaded Certification course which was long overdue.
We survived I should say, and we literally unwound the whole of Decemeber trying to do what we like — reinvented our board game evenings and nights, ate our heart out, read a lot, went home to India and enjoyed the quietness, managed to squeeze a mom-kids trip and what not!
Personally I managed stress quite well I guess without transferring it on him, but only I knew how anxious I was… sigh (something to work on!)
Its also a year that I did lot of soul searching – realised a lot more good in me through unexpected sources.
Yuvan too grew up as a person as I have seen him manage friendships and some fun childhood issues that comes with it, relationships and himself in total… I have to accept I got lot to learn from this little fellow..
2017 is going to be another important year and I really hope all goes well!
Had a tiring and stressful few weeks… today I went to lie down as the two boys were catching up on some movie for the nth time…
After 10 mins, Yuvan comes into check on me – brings my blanket and make sure am covered cosily in it…
Awww… this is sweet and really meant a lot, Yuvan! Stay this way please always and be blessed…
I felt like writing this to you, Yuvan, 3 years after I wrote my first letter… Thinking back, many things have not changed in the last few years, but you have grown up with me in it, you have understood the intricacies and you have been my pillar of strength…We have learnt to row our boat amidst the waves and have sometimes fallen off it but swam back to the boat too!
I can safely say ‘You are more of my friend, a companion and offcourse the wonderful son you are’ We have shared conversations that are beyond your age, we have done things that are of your age… I should say, I enjoy both… You are such a confidante… Probably I should say that you are the only person to whom I have shared my innermost fears and have rationalized.. and you seem to understand me…
You have been such a supporting, responsible lad in everyway possible who is also loved by all.. we have had our very own ‘lost it’ moments… I am trying everyday to be a better parent, please bear with me as I learn…
You have taught me very important life’s lessons and the views you share with me on quite a lot of personal front, just amazes me. The best I have learned from you through your actions and our conversations, which I still struggle to follow is ‘Silence is virtue.. and you just dont have to respond if you know its better not to respond’
I love the way we communicate just with non-verbals mostly eye notions… I love the dinners we share, the coffee time and I have to admit I like teaching you too.. Needless to say, I love cooking for you!
You are such an inspiration to me and I learn from you every single day! You have been quite open and transparent with me except for a few very silly things that you shouldnt have.. but please do remain the way you are and we will reach the goals and grow together!
I am impressed the way you are taking your competitive sport (and trying your best to balance with academic expectations). I am a proud mom looking at how your teammates bond with you, love you and encourage and adore you. I know you return the same too.. Keep going!
I am baffled and confused as you start your pre-teen years.. I am nervous and anxious! Lets go through this journey together, better and in a best possible way for both of us!
I love you Yuvan and you know what your flaws are… I am pretty proud to be your mother. The way you analyse things and put it into perspective be it in academics or personal or competitive sports, just makes me go ‘*open mouthed* Ohhh I see…’ Keep it up and continue it.. I love those perspectives from you!
Just remember one thing ‘Every action will have an equal and opposite reaction. You know your values, you know your strengths and weakness… Act accordingly!’
More to come from me as a parent but I love you as you are Yuvan! Have a blessed year and many more!
to having time. I belive in making time and prioritising… Though I have thrown some of the things I had been doing for myself out of the window, I am glad to be blessed to keep it going with this part of the equation for Yuvan!
A little burger dinner and a game of ‘stress’ is a definite Friday sanity… [Do not ask why the game is named so and what it is… It is just another version of the so called ‘Uno’ with different I donot who invented those rules.. LOL]
Those quality time spent mindlessly are the ones I really cherish… as well as the impromptu ones like this morning – lazing around in the bed, watching some riddle videos; queuing up to be one of the first few to take the Futsal slots for a little birthday get-together.
He is also my little man who helps me with weekend groceries – happily pushing away my trolley (though I know the other push factor for him is to play that so called ‘coke-cup’ filling game at the Fairprice finest we go to)… But no complaints though as I enjoy this little bonding times:-)
Touch wood… and I am thankful for this!
is something everyone would cherish and people who play competitive sport would relate to instantly.
Today was Yuvanz second ever since he started playing competitive junior league cricket. Both me and Eash couldn’t make it was I was down with fever (damn..!) but he came home with a huge smile and the MoM match ball award. It’s for his 4/14 and 11 of 9 unbeaten ina 20 overs Howzatt game where a batsman gets to bat only 20 balls.
I am glad the cricketing group parents made sure they snapped pics especially his good friend’s Dad and shared it with me… Blessed to have them.. It’s God’s own way of reassuring me I believe..
Yuvanz man of the match comes after a good 4 weeks break from cricket to focus just on academics… So am in a way relived we managed to balance (off course with me pullinnnnnnnggggg hair) both…
I know this has made Yuvan content, boosted his confidence and what not.. Playing competitive sport has definitely its fairshare of pro’s –playing as a team, dealing with loss and wins and many more which I perosnally belives in shaping one holistically!
to observe yourself amidst of everyone else around you results in moments of self-realization. Those are the moments when you know what you are doing, whether it is right and gives you the peace and happiness, who is with you at the little moment and how much you cherish them and off-course who is missing out… That makes you ponder, why and there goes your thought process…
Today was one of those days…:-)
and how internally they handle different things and situations, can be only a blessing because its hard to get an insight in their real thought process all the time.
Today morning was actually Yuvanz Mother Tongue paper viewing for this semester just for pupils who take Hindi as Mother Tongue.
Though I always get more anxious for this than for other subjects (primarily because I dont really teach him this subject rather have completely outsourced), I have learned to manage expectations as well as have consciously worked towards not converting it to astress-factor for him (Pat on the back for myself)!
He uses my phone for his school Whatsapp groups with controlled access(Why ‘no personal phone’ and its accompanying story warrants another post by itself *wink*). And I bumped in to the following last night….
When I read the above, something told me, ‘he probably is processing his thoughts the right way… ‘ As I have always taught him, ‘Work hard and do your best to your potential in anything you do.. Be honest. Once you have done something you can’t redo or rewrite.. so better do it well…’ I say this not just in academic context to clarify further… (I have always thought I advice too much though!)
But seeing him put it in the right context and even thinking about ‘whatever done is done, must face it whether good or bad and move on from there for better’ is defintely the right way to move forward. I am glad it is helping him manage expectations by setting his thoughts and outcomes ‘right’ from the outset. I hope this continues as a life long habit…
And he did quite well, though me being me expected a bit more but neverthless I reassured ‘Good.. strive harder..!’
I also bumped into the below with his best friend… He he he:-)